I talked to myself…

 

At times it is very important for us to fix an appointment with ourselves. It is that time of introspection when you realize and learn what all things you’ve learnt from life. It is that golden moment when you understand that each day has been a learning day. Every day you learn something new that is worth a thought. It improves your personality manifold and it also gives an insight to your inner soul.

I’ve spoken to myself several times recently and have felt that life is a ‘Boxing Game’. It punches you hard, makes you cry, gives stress to you and at times disappoints you as well. It is then when you must understand that you are not declared defeated when you fall down; rather you are considered defeated when you refuse to get up. However hard the blows of circumstances be, make sure that you gather all your courage to get up and speak for yourself. That is your win!

In such situations, when you evaluate, you’ll realize that it were the wrong people, the ones whom you disliked for their behavior, attitude and perception taught you right lessons. You gained priceless experience of life in such scenarios. But you should have the attitude to make the other person appreciate the fact that your back is not a kind of voice mail. If they have the courage, they should be upfront in coming to you and expressing their thoughts in front of you. It is then when the relationships can be maintained transparent.

I also strongly feel that happiness and success go hand-in-hand only in two situations. First when we manage everything when we have nothing and secondly, the way we behave when we have everything. At times success in terms of money and status makes people swollen headed. The reason is still to be established. People forget their journey when they started with merely the blessings of elders. Status makes them forget even the silent sacrifices made by their near and dear ones. Money puts a blindfold on their eyes but on the death pyre nobody has been fortunate enough to take it along; neither to the heaven nor to the hell. That is the most ironical situation of life when nothing goes with the departed soul; only the memories are left behind. The memories are always special. Sometimes, we laugh by remembering the days we cried and sometimes, we cry by remembering the days we laughed.

So, in a nutshell it is nicest to be in someone’s thoughts and safest to be in someone’s prayers. It is then when you have commanded the respect and deserved the best. If a person cannot be at the nicest and the safest place at some point of time in his life, he probably did not understand how to live life. He always remained strangulated in the materialistic world amidst pounds of wealth and meaningless relationships. It is with these thoughts that I realize that there is still more to observe and more to learn from the follies that people around you do. It is time for you to take a break and talk to yourself about the lessons you learn from life.

Until next, keep talking to yourself to learn…

 

Painful journey beginning from gifts to unsolicited credits

Gifts are probably the physical embodiment of love, care and affection. It has emotions attached to them. For some it is also a mark of respect and for others it is a token of love with a message ‘we do care’. In this materialistic world, often these gifts are looked for encashment in terms of their MRP and the brand and if you are fortunate enough to be associated with swarm of people as your family members, you are also destined to be unfortunate to be a ball of comparison.

Though with the end of barter system, goods are being purchased for exchange of money but these goods itself get laced with innumerous emotions for the recipient. Accepting this love-laced gift is also an art which is seldom gifted to people. The person needs to have a distinguished poise to receive it at the other end with equal love and affection. This art cannot be taught. One has to master it and to master one has to feel it and experience the emotions associated with it.

For a tiny tot, a mother’s kiss and a tight hug is the biggest gift; at the same time it is the ultimate feeling for a mother to experience her child in her arms. For a girlfriend the engagement ring is the biggest gift of acknowledgement of the love she showered in the courtship days while for the boyfriend the engagement ring symbolizes the girl’s assurance ‘I’ll always be with you’. For a father, the first job of his child is a gift, for a child a pat on the back by parents is the greatest recognition gift. Now for all these instances, if a token of love is embodied in a small wrapped up object; it becomes priceless.

These wrapped up objects also when exchanged on festivals, occasions, moments of celebration act as remembrance of the person who gave it. God also did not guarantee you the days you’ll survive, He also did not assure you of the fact that people will recognize your efforts, sacrifices, commitments and so He just said that in this materialistic world, you’ll live in an object for those who cannot keep you in their heart. The objects if lay in front of their eyes might bring back the nostalgia of the time spent with you.

You are a part a scenario where nothing but the money counts, you are in a system where emotions have taken a back seat, you are dwelling into a world where you are even being compared for what you gave to the people on various occasions and you soon will be just be out of place and of course out of hearts of many whom you tried to keep in your heart for long; so just chill!!

Welcome to the cold-blooded materialistic world where no one is yours except your parents, siblings, better-half and your offsprings. Friends are the pillars of support. Always be prepared to be recognized and acknowledged for the things you missed. That is the credit you get for doing countless other goodwill gestures, commendable efforts, unsaid and unrecognized sacrifices and at times unplanned budgetary expenditures. All the very best!!