I'm sure all of you had fun last week. Many of you would have got a hole burnt in the pockets after the Diwali dhamaka!!
For many housewives the period of gossiping has actually begun now. They now have given the gifts, received the gifts, invited guests, cooked tasty dishes, and also met all the relatives. Many of their counterparts might have done the same, still; who did better and who did the most would be the competition now.
The older generation is not happy with the new one because the new generation cannot really take too much of the initiatives to handle a big group of 40 odd people. There is ample time, energy and obviously resources going into it. The new generation dislike the older generation's perception of gathering everyone at one place, arranging non-stop supply of tea during the winters and serving lavish tasty royal food to one and all. How ridiculous is the fact that the one who has been on her toes from probably a couple of days prior to the gathering when sits down to have that much awaited meal, gets to hear everything is OK except XYZ :( Then begins the unending era of each oldie taking turns to praise the new comer of her family and suddenly the shift moves to the daughters of the family!!
Just for sitting idle, just for gossiping and passing remarks, they are being appreciated for their countless efforts they put in their families (we don't ever get to see that; for those we see, it is a collaborative effort from the parental side too :); but who will beat the head against the thorny bush!!). The new comers are victimized for not doing anything the oldies' way or doing the daughters' way, presumably the competent way. The ones who were about to have the last few morsels of lavish meal are now demotivated to think of 'Vasudev Kutumbakam' in a positive way inspite of their busy schedules and comparatively less energy than the older lot.
For me it is a learning phase. Ofcourse not for taking the oldies in my stride but for ensuring that I do not form this as my habit when I become the one in the oldie lot. For me, it is the time to realize that everyone has his/her preferences, different opinions to celebrate life and a preferred group to celebrate joys. It is the time to accept and yet ignore the oldie lot for their non-sense thinking and yet move on by explaining our limitations to them. After all, they did everything their own way but then how long would they continue to do the same??? It's the time to take charge and bring about a new revolution - it's time to reform the society and the rigid mindset. It's giving everyone a fair chance to live life their own way.
For many housewives the period of gossiping has actually begun now. They now have given the gifts, received the gifts, invited guests, cooked tasty dishes, and also met all the relatives. Many of their counterparts might have done the same, still; who did better and who did the most would be the competition now.
The older generation is not happy with the new one because the new generation cannot really take too much of the initiatives to handle a big group of 40 odd people. There is ample time, energy and obviously resources going into it. The new generation dislike the older generation's perception of gathering everyone at one place, arranging non-stop supply of tea during the winters and serving lavish tasty royal food to one and all. How ridiculous is the fact that the one who has been on her toes from probably a couple of days prior to the gathering when sits down to have that much awaited meal, gets to hear everything is OK except XYZ :( Then begins the unending era of each oldie taking turns to praise the new comer of her family and suddenly the shift moves to the daughters of the family!!
Just for sitting idle, just for gossiping and passing remarks, they are being appreciated for their countless efforts they put in their families (we don't ever get to see that; for those we see, it is a collaborative effort from the parental side too :); but who will beat the head against the thorny bush!!). The new comers are victimized for not doing anything the oldies' way or doing the daughters' way, presumably the competent way. The ones who were about to have the last few morsels of lavish meal are now demotivated to think of 'Vasudev Kutumbakam' in a positive way inspite of their busy schedules and comparatively less energy than the older lot.
For me it is a learning phase. Ofcourse not for taking the oldies in my stride but for ensuring that I do not form this as my habit when I become the one in the oldie lot. For me, it is the time to realize that everyone has his/her preferences, different opinions to celebrate life and a preferred group to celebrate joys. It is the time to accept and yet ignore the oldie lot for their non-sense thinking and yet move on by explaining our limitations to them. After all, they did everything their own way but then how long would they continue to do the same??? It's the time to take charge and bring about a new revolution - it's time to reform the society and the rigid mindset. It's giving everyone a fair chance to live life their own way.
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